day 4 — healing relationship trauma ❤️‍🩹 (HELLO LOVE MONTH) & your nervous system will keep reacting like you’re back there… until it learns safety. from safety, we can respond instead of react. we heal. we can show up in relationships with our values in mind and as our highest selves. follow along — this month we’re healing relationship wounds and unlearning survival mode in love. #cptsdrecovery #relationshipgoals #healingtrauma #attachmentissues #childhoodtrauma

how in this cruel world did I get so lucky? #relationshiptips #cptsdrecovery #nervoussystemhealing #traumahealing #HealingJourney

day 4: healing relationship wounds ❤️‍🩹 when you’re not taught safe love, you’re taught survival. and these cycles will continue to repeat until their acknowledged and changed 🙏🏻 the good news is that THEY CAN CHANGE this is some of my favorite work in therapy and coaching sessions: helping clients see their cycles and what their nervous systems need to feel safe and to show up differently in relationships. I promise there’s (always) hope 🫶🏻 #cptsdrecovery #attachmentissues #HealingJourney #relationshipgoals #traumahealing

nervous system focused movement is absolutely vital when you’re healing trauma ❤️‍🩹 this is something that changed the game for me. this is something I focus on in coaching. nervous system is more than buzzword — it’s the heartbeat behind progress and post traumatic growth. proud of me. proud of us. #cptsdrecovery #nervoussystemhealing #somatictherapy #healingtrauma #nervoussystemregulation

day 2 — healing relationship wounds “you’re not broken, you’re patterned.” meaning: your nervous system learned patterns of connection and protection based on what you experienced in childhood. how you attach, how you cope in conflict, how you respond to closeness, how you handle distance — none of it is random. it’s learned. it’s adaptive. it makes sense. and the best part? patterns can be unlearned. they can be rewired. they can be healed. welcome to love month ❤️‍🩹 follow along for the healing relationship wounds series. #cptsdrecovery #relationshiptips #traumahealing #childhoodtrauma #nervoussystemhealing

literally who am I? healing changed everything. this man…changed everything. this love…changed everything. #cptsdrecovery #traumahealing #nervoussystemhealing #relationshiptips #somatictherapy

healing relationship patterns — day 1

healing our relationship wounds — day 1 these aren’t “bad habits.” they’re nervous system survival responses — shaped by what you had to adapt to in childhood. and the most important part? you’re not broken. you’re patterned. and patterns can be healed. follow along this month — we’re unpacking childhood trauma + attachment wounds + the way they show up in relationships ❤️‍🩹 #relationshiptips #childhoodtrauma #complextrauma #cptsdrecovery #nervoussystemhealing

follow along 🧡

you can understand your trauma. name your patterns. read the books. go to therapy. be deeply self-aware. yet you still have a body that panics, braces, shuts down, or dissociates. because regulation isn’t a mindset. it’s a physiological state. and when your nervous system is activated, it’s not looking for a better thought — it’s looking for safety. that’s why trauma healing can’t just live in insight. it has to include the body. breath, grounding, movement, orienting, co-regulation… these aren’t “extras.” they’re the language the nervous system understands. your mind isn’t the problem — it’s been trying to protect you. (hello, compassion) but healing happens when your body learns: we’re safe now. 🫶🏻 #t#traumahealingc#cptsdrecoveryn#nervoussystemregulationh#HealingJourneysomatictherapy

pt. 2!!

sneaky little devil ‼️

for so many of us, trauma taught us to leave ourselves — to live in our head, to push through, to stay busy, to brace. not because we were broken, but because it was safer than feeling. but healing is a homecoming. it’s learning how to stay with yourself. how to breathe without rushing. how to soften the jaw, drop the shoulders, and let your body know: i’m here now. and, most importantly: it’s safe to be “here” now. you don’t have to do it perfectly. try coming back in small moments. a breath. a hand on your chest. a pause. this is how safety is built — not through force, but through returning. 🕊️ #traumahealing #cptsdrecovery #nervoussystemregulation #HealingJourney #somatictherapy

because what goes unhealed doesn’t just disappear — it lives on in the nervous system. it shows up as bracing. as panic. as shutdown. as hypervigilance in relationships. as repeating the same cycles with different people. as feeling unsafe even in safe rooms. trauma doesn’t always look like remembering. sometimes it looks like reliving — in your body, in your choices, in your reactions. and healing isn’t about digging up the past for the sake of it. it’s about freeing your present. it’s about teaching your body: the danger is over now. it’s about reclaiming your life from survival mode. you deserve more than coping in a cage. you deserve peace that feels real in your body. #traumahealing #cptsdrecovery #nervoussystemregulation #HealingJourney #somatictherapy

staying soft (with ourselves and others) in a world and climate that is so cruel feels like the bravest thing we can do right now. #traumahealing #cptsdrecovery #nervoussystemregulation #HealingJourney #somatictherapy

last one is obv my favorite

it’s realizing that the anxiety, the overthinking, the shutdown, the bracing — wasn’t you being “too much.” it was your nervous system doing its job to keep you alive. but survival isn’t where you’re meant to stay. healing looks like teaching your body that the danger has passed. that you don’t have to scan for threat in every room. that you can exhale without waiting for the other shoe to drop. it’s not just insight. it’s regulation. it’s safety becoming something you can actually feel. and little by little, your body stops living like it’s still back there. you come home to yourself again. 🧡 #traumahealing #cptsdrecovery #nervoussystemregulation #HealingJourney #somatictherapy

worth the wait, I promise

this love changed everything

& to all a good holiday week ♥️

heavy on number 8

these are the clients I love coming alongside of: stuck. taking one step forward and two steps back. struggling to feel safe in their body. struggling to identify the patterns and routes that have them feeling aimless in their trauma recovery. hope and change and FELT safety is possible, I promise. #traumahealing #cptsdrecovery #nervoussystemregulation #HealingJourney #somatictherapy

we will always have that 🫶🏻 our choice to rise. our choice of resilience. ourselves. our perspective. our strength. our ability to fall in forward motion. #traumahealing #cptsdrecovery #nervoussystemregulation #HealingJourney #somatictherapy

self-safety again and again

this time of year places unique demands on the nervous system — especially for those with a history of trauma or complex family dynamics. needing extra support doesn’t mean you’re failing. it means you’re listening. you’re aware. you’re attuned. this is exactly the kind of work I support people with — learning how to stay connected to themselves during seasons like this. when there’s more required of us, the more we need to support ourselves 🫶🏻 traumahealing #cptsdrecovery #nervoussystemregulation #HealingJourney #somatictherapy

you’ve read the books. you’ve gained the insight. you understand why you are the way you are. and still — something in you hesitates. your body tightens. your nervous system reacts before your mind can catch up. this isn’t failure. or regression. it’s the space where post-traumatic growth begins. because healing doesn’t end with understanding. it deepens when your body learns what your mind already knows. insight can explain the wound — but safety is what teaches the body to soften. your nervous system learned love through inconsistency. it learned safety through vigilance. so even when your mind says “i’m okay now,” your body might still brace for impact. post-traumatic growth looks like courting your body back into trust. slowly. gently. it’s choosing softness over self-discipline. warmth over urgency. connection over control. it’s staying with yourself when your body reacts faster than your thoughts — and whispering, “i know why you’re scared… and you don’t have to do this alone anymore.” this is where healing turns into becoming. not fixing. not pushing. but falling back in love with the life that’s still unfolding INSIDE of you. ♥️ #t#traumahealingc#cptsdrecoveryn#nervoussystemregulationh#HealingJourneys#somatictherapy

you LIKELY already know why you react the way you do. you can name your patterns. you understand your trauma. and yet — change still feels hard. that’s because insight ≠ change. insight lives in the mind. and trauma lives in the nervous system. in your body. your body reacts (even) faster than your thoughts. it braces before your mind can remind it that you’re safe now. no amount of awareness can override a system that still feels threatened. this is where somatic healing matters. AND WORKS. it works with the body instead of trying to convince your mind. it helps your nervous system learn safety through experience — not explanation. healing doesn’t come from knowing more. it comes from letting your body catch up to what your mind already understands. 🫶🏻 #traumahealing #cptsdrecovery #nervoussystemregulation #HealingJourney #somatictherapy

cheers to that hard-to-swallow-truth 🤝 the reason this is so significant? because often, in therapy especially, we work so hard at bringing awareness to things. and to an extent it’s necessary and good, and then there’s this reality— awareness can also dysregulate us. re-traumatize, and make us feel stuck in trauma’s repressions. awareness is only a very small part of healing, and in my understanding, healing and progress will be limited until your system feels safe enough to change and integrate recovery. this is exactly what we explore together in somatic therapy + coaching. save this. breathe. come back to it. #traumahealing #cptsdrecovery #nervoussystemregulation #HealingJourney #somatictherapy

I’m a big believer in healing attachment wounds with our pets 🙏🏻 Aloving on them and taking care of them is also one of the most regulating things we can do for our nervous systems, as well. #traumahealing #cptsdrecovery #nervoussystemregulation #HealingJourney #somatictherapy

old habits. patterns that we learned. behaviors that we observed and now repeat. these are all things that take a lot of hard work, determination and discipline to change. the best news though? it’s possible. change and healing is always an option. #traumahealing #cptsdrecovery #nervoussystemregulation #HealingJourney #somatictherapy

some people will prefer the version of you that stayed quiet, overextended, and abandoned yourself to keep the peace. when you heal, you stop being as convenient. you take up more space. you respond instead of react. you choose yourself in healthy ways. that can feel threatening to people who benefited from your unhealed patterns. outgrowing people isn’t cruel — it’s often self-respect. and from a somatic lens, it’s your nervous system choosing safety over survival. #traumahealing #cptsdrecovery #nervoussystemregulation #HealingJourney #somatictherapy

pause. breathe. unclench your jaw. relax your shoulders. shake the restlessness out of your body. lean into the stillness. lean into the quiet. lean into the slowness. find rest here if you can. #brooklyn #nycapartment #somatictherapy #mindfullness #nervoussystemregulation

we can still get our nails done, don’t worry 🫶🏻 #traumahealing #cptsdrecovery #nervoussystemregulation #HealingJourney #somatictherapy

reframing self-love one choice at a time

styling is my favorite coping strategy #ootds #nyclife #cptsdrecovery #copingstrategies #getdressedwithme

a relationship tip that no one asked for but I’m really passionate about 😅 #relationshiptok #attachmentstyle #attachmentissues #cptsdrecovery #healthyrelationships

a year ago today, I kept a promise to myself that I would go on this date in an effort to remain open to something good happening. there’s no opportunity to be proven wrong about love, connection and men, when I’m closed off. I’m so glad I did. this man has been a clear, peaceful yet exciting yes since the very start. #relationshiptips #cptsdhealing #traumarecovery #nyclife #brooklynny

let’s break it down

no one’s coming to save you

feeling safe in your body again after trauma takes time — not pressure. these are the kinds of small, nervous-system-led shifts that i practice with clients every day. your body wants to come home to you — be gentle as you rebuild that relationship. #therapistsontiktok #cptsdrecovery #traumarecovery #healingtrauma #traumarecoverycoach #wellness #diagnosis #selfhealers #copingskills #childhoodtrauma #traumarecovery #EmotionalHealing #TraumaRecovery #FeelToHeal” #ootd #nyclife #nervoussystemregulation #somatictherapy #somatichealing

trauma not only left me feeling unloveable, but it also hardened me to the possibility of letting someone into my world. I’ve pushed a lot of good people away. I’ve let hurtful men stay too long. I’ve sworn off love as if it weren’t for me. I’ve let fear of abandonment run my whole life. learn from me— hear me— trust me— there are good men and women out there that will surprise you in every way. there are relationships out there who will tear down walls that other people helped you build. stay tender. get ready to accept a beautiful thing. there’s no exception to being worthy of love. #traumarecovery #HealingJourney #traumainformed #nervoussystemhealing #selfhealers #complextrauma #cptsd #OOTD #nyclife #fyp #foryou #therapytok #healingtok #tiktoktherapist #mentalhealthtok #relationshipadvice #ifoundlove